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It really doesn’t matter what you want to call it. Bend Over Boyfriends or Male Anal Sex are both the same things and NO… it’s not gay!

Okay yes, gay males do bend over and have anal intercourse  but that’s not what we are talking about here.

The act of male anal sex can not only be exciting but can also take your relationship to a whole new level of pleasure both for the male and the female as well.

Let’s take a look at what is involved and see if it is right for you and your lover…

• 1) The main thing is Communication and this hold true for both male and female anal sex… if it doesn’t feel good or right then tell your partner!  Communication begins outside of the sheets.  Talking to your partner about your wants and desires before you get into bed will take the stress and pressure out of the equation.  If you understand what each person wants you can just focus on giving and receiving  pleasure.

• 2) Patience:  Anal sex takes time!  This is worth repeating… Anal sex takes time!  A person must be in the mood and ready to receive anal sex before something is just shoved in.  Message, oral sex, a long bath or shower together, touching and so on all help set the tone and lead up to the ultimate goal of anal penetration.  This is true for both the male and the female.

• 3) Lube:  Anal Lube or in the least a thick lube is necessary for any type of anal play.  The anus is not self lubricating and needs a good amount of lubrication.  You should however, never use an oil based lubricant when having anal play.  The oil can clog the pores and cause problems.  Water based lubricants are the best and are also safe to use with anal toys and condoms.  We have several types that we offer here on the site.

Anal pleasure for a male can be just as fun as it is for a female.  The anus has thousands of nerve endings that if treated right can provide a whole host of exciting feelings.

Couples engaged in heterosexual sex where the female inserts fingers, toys, strap-on and other objects into her male sexual partner can be extremely thrilling.

So Ladies, let’s examine some of the things you can do with your Bend Over Boyfriend (This goes for husbands too!)…

You can use your tongue… yes, it’s okay.  It can be a super turn-on for a man when his lover is using her tongue to lick his rear during oral sex.  So what should you do?  First, you can use a dental dam which is like a condom but for oral sex.  (Please note that even when clean the anus and surrounding tissue will have thousands of bacteria which can be harmful and can make you sick.)  As you are licking his testicles (balls) you just move a little lower and this can create a huge amount of excitement for the male.  There are also flavored lubes that can be placed on the dental dam to promote licking.

Here is where the lube will need to be used…

Finger play, just the act of rubbing the anal area without any insertion can create massive pleasure.  If you do insert your finger into the anal opening do it slowly to allow the muscles to relax before you move deeper.  Lots of lubrication should be used at this point.

Anal toys, just like for women anal toys can be used but unlike women men have a prostate which if probed with a finger or anal toy designed for prostate play can cause a very strong orgasm to occur.  This is sometimes know as the male g-spot.

Using a strap-on toys can give the female a sense of power and dominance while  allowing her to penetrate her partner in the same way that he can penetrate her.  This can happen both face to face and in the bent over positions.  Once again lots of lube should be used.  The prostate can also be stimulated during this type of intercourse as well.

For more information from an expert in male anal sex you should check out the video Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide To Anal Pleasure For Men.  Tristan Taormino busts myths and challenges stereotypes about male sexuality as she sheds light on one of the most important erogenous zones for men.  This is a great video packed with over 2 hour of information and was the 2010 AVN Award Nominee for Best Educational Release.

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